Money: An integral part of our world’s everyday life.
It is virtually in all we see, touch, taste, hear and smell.
Simply glance around you. From the device you are reading this article with to the chair you are currently sitting on. Was it not money which allowed you to exchange for those goods? What about the current internet service that connects your device to the web or the pair of pants and the shirt you have on as today’s outfit?
How about that cup of coffee or tea you may have enjoyed this morning, the bed that carried you all through the night, or the home which you retire to after an honest day of work? Regardless if these goods were given to you as a gift, lent to you by a family member, or earned by your very own means, money is all around us.
It is that inescapable 5 letter word.
Money is the tool which tracks the goods we exchange on a daily bases. Simply put, money is merely an accounting system. Nothing more and nothing less. An accounting system that makes the world go round. And if this is the case, then why does talking about it openly instantaneously shift the energy within most of us? How can something that exist everywhere in our society be such an unspoken language to so many of us?
Whenever money conversations came up…The room always seemed to feel heavy with long, drawn-out restless expressions making its way to the adult’s faces. Each breath was filled with a considerable amount of density.
Growing up as young woman in a Canadian Chinese household, money was rarely a dinner table topic. As a child, I often thought to myself; food must grow on dining tables because every time I sat down for a meal, food always showed up! Nobody in my family ever talked about how the groceries from the store arrive to our plates, let alone how we had a table to eat on to begin with.
So… I just went with that 6 year old intellectual mind of mine and decided that food grows on dining tables. After all, I have heard adults say ‘money must grow on trees!’ so why not dinner tables?!
Whenever money conversations came up at the dinner table, I vividly remember it was mostly about bills, payments, and supplies of some sort. The room always seemed to feel heavy with long, drawn-out restless expressions making its way to the adult’s faces. Each breath was filled with a considerable amount of density.
Then, there were the times money went past casual dinner conversation. I remembered those were the scary memories about money; the ones with heavy emotional weight that had me running into my room to hide under the blankets squeezing my teddy tight in my arms. Those loudly raised voices made the house feel cold and empty.
Having these experiences as a child taught me that whenever someone was to talk about money it was going to make me run for my teddy and hide under my blankets. In some form or another, this is what shuts off the natural discussion of money, as well as creating minimal positive experiences around the topic for many of us at a young age .
Money does not have to be the root of all evil, instead it can be defined as the root of all love. It is really up to a person on how they choose to define money.
Throughout my childhood and into my teenage years, I would often wonder to myself; what if the topic of money could be a happy and joyous topic, like ice-cream? Just ask any 5 year old about ice-cream and you’ll see what instant joy truly looks like.
One day, I was at a local ice-cream shop in Vancouver with my husband and I couldn’t help but notice that there were more wise souls having ice-cream than there were kids. And there it was!!
After many years of money and ice-cream pondering, my lightbulb went on!! In that moment I decided to recreate new emotions when talking about money to the emotions which mirrors the experiences of talking about ice-cream!
I started redefining my definition of money. I had the choice to experience money as if I was experiencing ice-cream. I can choose to love it or hate it. I can choose to experience a lot or a little of it. I can choose to experience it all at once or save some of it at home. I can choose to experience it on my own or with my closest family and friends. At any given time I can choose whatever emotion I’d like to feel around my experience with money. Most importantly, I can choose to talk about money without that childhood fear of needing to run and hide in my room under my blanket.
There is such a great sense power in knowing I have a choice to choose how I want to define money.
In my wealth management business, my partners and I now educate all our clients with this knowledge so that they too can have the opportunity to choose how they wish to define their money experiences. By doing so, they can build a true sense of self confidence when speaking about money openly with us and with those in their everyday life. They also now have the opportunity to create their own terms with money simply by changing the way they feel and talk about it.
Money is really neither good nor bad, being categorized as rich or poor has no significant meaning, emotion or energy to it except for the very ones we have assigned to it ourselves. Money does not have to be the root of all evil, instead it can be defined as the root of all love. It is really up to a person on how they choose to define money.
So there you have it. What if you too can redefine your own meaning of money right now? How would that look like to you? What emotion would choose to feel from it? How would you want to speak about it?
I have great news for you! You can absolutely allow yourself the power and permission to choose to redefine your money definition! How empowering would it be to have the topic of money be a highlight discussion during every meal at the dining table with your family and children?
In this very moment we all have the choice to bring upon a new way, a new norm in defining how we want ourselves and our families to speak about money in our current world and for generations to come.